Making The Transition To My Daughter's Own Room

'How will I know that Edith is ready for her own room?', 'how will Edith adjust to being on her own?', 'will I still be able to hear her?', 'am I ready for Edith to go into her own room?', 'will she think that we have abandoned her?'.


These are just some of the questions that popped into my head before we made Edith's transition to her own bedroom but we have finally done it. At 15 and a half months, Edith is now in her own room, and the process has come as a bit of a shock to us, rather than Edith!

As with anything, there is so much information out there given to parents, from weaning, to breast or bottle feeding, etc. and sleep is of no exception to that. I think ultimately, us as parents have to make decisions for our own children. There's no one size fits all

When Edith was very small, we had heard that the recommended time for a baby to stay in their parents room was 6 months. At the time I knew that that probably wouldn't happen because we liked having Edith close to us. Plus, with the cats, we didn't feel comfortable in having both of our bedroom and Edith's bedroom doors shut as the cats would be limited to where they could go at night. So, it seemed in everyone's best interests that Max, Edith and I would just sleep in our bedroom until the time felt right


Early days

As a newborn, and way up until Edith was around 8 months, she slept like a dream. She would sleep through the night in her Sleepyhead and we all went through that period feeling well rested. However, when she outgrew the Sleepyhead, it all went a bit downhill, really. Edith, would not longer sleep through the night, instead she would wake several times for feeds. 

This felt so alien to me because we had gone so long without night feeds that the tiredness hit me like a ton of bricks. The big eye-bags returned and I felt so groggy and tired. I obviously became accustomed to it and just learnt to get on with it, as anyone does! 

Toddler life

As Edith is now older, I'm aware that she doesn't necessarily need to feed during the night. The truth is, she was waking because we were waking her up. As we were all in the same room, whenever I rolled over in the night, or Max was snoring, that would be it. Edith would be awake, standing, peering over to us and shouting for me to hold her and feed her until she drifted off again. 

I know that it was us waking her, as when we weren't in the room she would sleep so well, and wouldn't wake at all. At that point, we realised that it was time to start thinking about making the transition to her own room.



Play time

I always liked the idea that Edith would feel comfortable in her own room, to play or read, or do activities. We recently had new carpets in our living room, so the idea of her doing crafts down here scares me. So, I invested in a messy mat and we do different play activities up there. 


Personally, I think this has really helped with Edith adapting to her own room as she's used to being in there. She'd comfortable to toddle around and explore her things and recognises it as her environment. She now gets excited and sees it as a treat to go upstairs and will often squeal when we suggest that we go up there. She will begin shouting 'stairs' and will run instantly in to her room. 

Routine over schedule

I don't have a set schedule on when we do things. I have rough times that I'd like to get things done, but if it doesn't happen, then it's not the end of the world. As with everything, I am led by Edith. If she looks tired, then she can sleep. If she's showing me that shes hungry, she can eat. Timings done particularly cause an issue for me.

When it comes to bedtime, we always all go upstairs, Max sits with Edith and reads her a book whilst I'm prepping the monitor and her cot. Edith recognises what I'm doing and seems to be calmer, ready for me to sit down in her room and feed her. Max will then turn out the light, where I feed her in darkness. 



Once Edith has started being lazy with her latch, I know that she's ready to be put in her cot. She's usually semi-awake at this point, so I then gently put her in her cot and leave the room without saying anything or without making eye contact. She then might stand up in her cot and have a look around, or if she's really tired she'll just stay laying down and that's it!


This is the only light that Edith has in her room (the GroEgg).

During the night


I'm not sure there's an exact science to it, I just think that Edith was ready. We followed her cues, as we do with everything, and it seems to have paid off. She no longer wakes in the night, because I think she's having that quiet that she obviously needed. We have had a couple of nights where she's woken up once but has happily gone straight back down once we've got up with her briefly. 


This is just what Edith's cot looks like during the day. She goes to sleep with a completely empty cot.


During the night, we have Edith's monitor on standby. So, rather than being on and blinding us during the night, it will trigger itself on if she makes a noise which then wakes us up. I can't recommend a video monitor enough! It's definitely one of my favourite baby products


This was my 'mum hack'. I bought an IKEA toothbrush holder pot and turned it upside down to rest the camera on!


Factors that I think have helped us with the transition:

  • Allowing Edith to get used to spending awake time in her new bedtime environment;
  • Buying a GroBlind to completely black out any light in her room, other than her GroEgg thermometer;
  • Spending time awake in her room briefly to read, or get a toy out, before settling down to feed her in the dark;
  • Not making eye-contact or speaking to her when I leave the room (I hate this because I just want to tell her that I love her when I leave the room!); and
  • Having some sort of a routine when it comes to a bedtime, even if the time schedule isn't necessarily the same.

Overall, I think sleep is a milestone that your baby/toddler will eventually hit when the time is right for them. I am firmly against sleep training, or crying it out, so it was never something that I wanted to try. Our approach has been completely led by Edith, and so far so good! 
If I didn't feel that Edith was ready, I would not have continued putting her to sleep in her own room. I'd have dragged the cot back into our room and tried again in a few months. 

How did you feel about your little ones going into their own rooms? 

Thanks, lovelies.


A.x

3 comments

  1. Aw this transition was such a long time ago for me now. My boys are 10 and 15 and the switch to their own rooms seems eons ago! I think you're right though, there's no science to it - it's a judgement call. You know when your child is ready. :)

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  2. Baby led sleeping. It sounds much better than what we went through. Well done mummy.

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  3. Seems ages ago for me, my kids are 15, 14 and 9 now.
    And we had them in their own room from right the beginning. So no real transition for us.
    I don't think there is one fit all solution as when it comes to sleeping.
    I hope your little Edith enjoys her room!

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