Why Are Us Mums So Hard On Ourselves?

Recently, I received Edith's 10-12 month review appointment in the post, and it got me thinking as, inside the appointment letter, there is a questionnaire. The questionnaire is a short one that looks at some of the skills that a baby may, or may not, be able to do at this stage in their development. 

Personally, I don't like things like this. I think it can cause unnecessary stress for a parent by questioning 'should my baby be doing this?', 'why isn't my baby doing that?', etc, etc.

Anyway, after receiving my appointment, my mind began to wander, and it made me question myself as to why I was being so hard on myself. Now, I'm no expert, and I don't claim to be. However, I do know that I am doing my very best for Edith. Sure, there are things that I think I could maybe do better, as there's always room for growth, but on the whole, I think I'm doing a good job (without blowing my own trumpet). 

Compare, compare, compare

Although I like to to think that I'm doing a good job, I know there are times where I look at another mum and I think wow, she's got her life together - how ludicrous is that? I like to think for the most part that I have settled firmly into motherhood, but there are days that are hard. We all have those days.

I find myself comparing one style of parenting against my own, and I'm sure I'm not the only mum that does this. I'm sure I've said this before, but it all boils down to wanting to be the best parent that we can be for our children

There are things that I wish I was better at (weaning being one of them!), but Rome wasn't built in a day, or so they say. Motherhood is such a learning curve, and one that I've quickly discovered, has no right or wrong approach.
Looking like I've got my life together, when in actual fact, Edith had been up most of the night and I felt like a walking Zombie.
Baby babbles

Again, I know I've said this before, but I personally believe that the best thing that I can do as a mother, is to follow Edith's lead. That doesn't mean to say that she doesn't have boundaries, but that's my job as her mum to set them, not comparing what another mum does with her baby. What works for one family, will not always work for another. Sure, picking up tips can be super useful, but other people's approaches are not gospel, which is something that I think us mums need to remember, sometimes (at least I do!).

Anyway, as mums, we know our own babies and I think that's the most important thing that I wanted to get across in this post. For once, this is a fairy short post, but I think it's an important one. Us mums need to remember that we are only human, and we are raising small humans and doing the best that we can for them.

Have you ever found yourself questioning your parenting?

Thanks, lovelies.


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