The Worries of Breastfeeding

As a first-time mum, I had no idea about the worries that accompanied being a mother. I constantly find myself double, no triple, thinking about every decision I make because, after all, don't we all just want the best for our children?

When pregnant, everyone is told how breast is best, but who is breast best truly for? Not all mums have an easy breastfeeding journey, some do not wish to breastfeed and then some do. As a breastfeeding mum myself, I think we have found our groove, but it doesn't mean to say that I no longer worry about trying to do the best thing for Edith. So, I thought I'd address that in this post.

'What if I can't do it?'

This was one worry that presented itself whilst I was pregnant. Initially, I didn't want to breastfeed, but after some more thought on it, and encouragement, I knew that deep down, I did want to give it a go. I always tried telling myself, and others, that I wouldn't be disheartened if it didn't go to plan, or I wouldn't force myself to do anything that I didn't want to. That was a lie. Deep down I was eager to try and make it work. I stocked up on so many breastfeeding products that online had told me that I would need, but in reality I wasn't sure what I would or would not need.

I guess this is one of the worries that can't be focused too much on because no one can see into the future, so deal with that hurdle when/if you get to it.

'How will I know that my baby is getting enough?'

Seven months in, and I still worry about this. I find myself doubting whether Edith is still getting enough, even though she remains the content and happy, pooping machine baby. 

I often get days where I feel empty towards the end of the day. I'm not, but it definitely feels like it. I find that I'm reassuring myself that it's normal when I have days like that and that rather than it being an indication of lack of milk, it's actually that my boobs have adjusted and stabilised according to Edith's needs.

When breastfeeding, I was told, one of the key indicators of baby having enough breast milk was:

  • Nappy output - Does baby have a good output of wet and dirty nappies?
  • Weight gain - Is baby gaining weight well?
  • Mood- Is baby happy and calm after a feed?
I think it's sometimes drummed into breastfeeding mums that you never know how much baby is having if they are feeding directly from the boob, as if that's a bad thing. Just follow your baby's lead and they will soon tell you if they want more, or if they have had enough. 

'Will my baby sleep through the night if they are breastfed?'

Whether a baby is breastfed or not, has nothing to do with how long they will sleep. I often heard that giving baby a bottle will encourage them to sleep through the night quicker, as they will be fuller, which is simply not true.

I know many bottle feeding and breastfeeding mums that both have children that do sleep through and some that don't. The way they are fed has nothing to do with it. 

'Will someone approach me if I'm feeding in public?'

This was a worry that I frequently thought about in Edith's early days. The idea of breastfeeding in public for the first time made me feel so anxious. I couldn't bear the thought of someone approaching me whilst feeding Edith, as you often see stories like that printed in tabloids. 

I don't deny that this never happens, however, I'm not sure how common it really is. There are laws that protect breastfeeding mothers whilst feeding in public, so be sure to know your rights if you were ever told to stop and move. 

In the long run, now that I've been feeding Edith for some time now, it means that my confidence has grown when I'm out in public. After all, I'm just feeding her. I'm not 'whipping my boobs out' for the sake of it. So, if you're worried about breastfeeding in public, there are ways to get around that which I have written about here.

Well there we have it, these are some of the worries that I have experienced whilst breastfeeding. Is there anything in particular that worried you about your breastfeeding journey? I'd love to know in the comments!

Thanks, lovelies.


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