April - C-section awareness month

I recently found out that this month, April, is C-section awareness month. I think this is pretty cool, maybe because I've had a cesarean, but I do think it's fab that there is more awareness for just how common this type of birth is. 


Just a heads up, there will be a raw and graphic photo of my cesarean scar further down in this post, so don't read on if you don't want to see it!

I'll also just mention that this post is entirely based on my own experience/opinion. In no way do I think any type of birth is more superior than another. 

How many?

So, 1 in 4 women will have a cesarean birth. Whether that be via an elective section, like me, or whether that be for emergency reasons. I find this crazy, because when I think of 'birth', I instantly think of vaginal deliveries. I think that's because vaginal deliveries are the 'natural' way of giving birth, which as women, we were biologically programmed for, but sometimes that isn't an option, and for some women, again, like me, it was an option that I didn't want to try and explore.

I'm going to point out right now that having a c-section does not make a woman any less of a mother, and it baffles me that some might have an opposing opinion.

Stigma

Now, before I wanted to explore the option of a C-section delivery, I did a lot of research and reading. I needed to make sure it was the right choice for me, which if you've read my birth story, you'll know that I 100% stand by my decision.

Anyway, during my researching, I had come across a few scare-mongering opinions, which is fine because let's be honest, a c-section involves major abdominal surgery, and let's face it, is pretty damn scary. However, what I didn't expect to come across was the amount of stigma that surrounds this type of birth. I saw quite a few posts that were shaming mothers who either had to have a c-section as an emergency, and those who opted to have one. Now, I did write a post on mum-shaming, but it absolutely baffled me that there were people that had the audacity to suggest that a c-section was an 'easy option'.

Easy peasy...

Let me assure you, having a cesarean is by no means an 'easy option'. It is also not a 'lazy option', as I had seen written. Yes the procedure may not take as long as a vaginal labour and delivery might take, but the procedure itself can be very scary, it certainly was for me beforehand. It also carries, potentially, more risks than a vaginal delivery. So, I do find it incredibly frustrating when this type of birth is undermined so blatantly. Regardless of how a baby comes into the world, birth is birth

I might look calm, but I was terrified!

Self love

It probably sounds ridiculous, but I'd be lying if I said that I wasn't worried about 'loving' my post-partum body. I knew that by having a section that I'd be giving up my unmarked belly. Now, I'm sporting some pretty big stretch marks and my incision scar - Edith's mark

The first few days after the operation, I didn't want to look at myself in the mirror. Mainly because it freaked me out. I didn't like the idea of seeing my wound, for the fear of what might be staring back at me in the mirror. However, now, I am grateful for my healing scar. It bought me by baby safely. 

My 5 day post-partum bod.
Now, my incision is slightly longer and higher than the 'norm', mainly because Edith was very engaged and was also in distress, so they had to make sure that they had enough room to get her out. At first, it upset me a little bit, but again, Edith is here. She is safe and that's all that matters. I don't remember a time when I didn't wear bottoms that weren't half way up my stomach, anyway!

Anyway, I'd love to hear some of your c-section experiences, so leave a comment if you want to divulge!

Thanks, lovelies.

A.x

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